Swooned by Sweetness

You're never too old to be swooned by sweetness, and you're most likely to fall into that trap if or when you're vulnerable. There are many reasons you can fall prey to this and I was one of those who did. Then, before you know it, you're so deep into the relationship you aren't thinking rationally and become too willing to settle on issues that should be worked out before marriage or you get into this fantasy world thinking everything will just work itself out. NOT TRUE and that is absolutely not how it goes. Yesterday, I spoke a lot about guarding your heart and your mind. Today's topic gives you a prime example and concrete proof as to the "why" on both of those things. Your first red flag [ with yourself, not the other person ] is if you are too willing to accept things that are opposite of what you believe, and go against your morals and values. And, of course the second red flag is the person you're with even expecting you to change or settle for something that isn't you! Be diligent in holding fast to what you know as well as your morals, values, and and never back down from your beliefs! ALWAYS stay true to yourself!!!!

Don't be fooled by romantic gestures that are being used to give the best first impression or to keep you around reeling you in until you're considered hooked, line, and sinker. A true gentleman or woman will be a person of sameness [ meaning they act the same in public as they do in private ], and a person of consistency. There's too many surface characteristics that are used as bait, with conquering the "chase" and once one has achieved their goal, all romance and "good behavior" goes out the window. Don't just be true to yourself, but be with someone who is also true to themselves and have honorable character traits. IF you don't your relationship is on the road to doom and a dead end. I don't want to see you suffer as I did because I wasn't ready for a committed relationship with way too many unknowns about who I was and what I wanted, or was willing to put up with. 

This is another subject that is also not gender specific and to be honest, woman can be worse than men! Be able to pinpoint the prowlers and save yourself a lot of time and heartache. People will be people and its crucial that you are careful about they type of people you call your "tribe," the people you allow in your circle. You become who and what your surround yourself with and subject yourself to!! Sure, we have friends from all different walks of life, personalities, goals, etc. Just make sure that your atmosphere is conducive to what you want to become and the type of person you strive to be. 

I'm one who had to go through the same thing over and over and over again before finally "getting" it! Again, don't ever compare yourself to anyone and your only competition in this life is yourself. Continue being better than you were yesterday if you want to see consistent change and growth. 

Some of My Favorite Quotes

-"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde

-"Never trust your fears. they don't know your strength." Author unknown

-" Trust yourself, you know more than you think you do." Dr. Benjamin Spock

-" Believe in yourself and have faith in your abilities! Without humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy. " Norman Vincent Peale

 [ BUT also and most importantly, recognize the power of the Holy Spirit dwelling inside of you and the power He gives you for a successful, happy life ].