Epidemic of Hate and Fighting It

 The most powerful tool to fight anything, is LOVE!! You've heard the saying, " Kill em with kindness," and it works! Whatever is opposite of an evil action, DO THAT!!! As promised, we're delving into the epidemic of hate and it's ever growing, so you better buckle up and learn how to handle yourself because that's just the way the world is and has only gotten worse with time. I'm not always going to talk about things that are roses and butterflies as you should have discovered by now if you've been following me. I'm real, I face reality head on, and I deal. Someone who cares, will try to help you do the same, and that's one of my purposes in blogging among many others. Having said all that, lets get started shall we!!

You know haters are gonna hate and you have to just learn to let it roll off of you like water on a duck's back. Is it always easy? Abostinkinlutely NOT! If one of them hurts you, don't feed them power by fighting them back, feed yourself by loving you enough to work through the emotions brought on, and keep moving forward. It's simple...what makes these people the way they are is because they hate themselves and are so miserable they need to collect others like them so they feel just as miserable. It's like a drunk surrounding themselves with more drunks so that shame is quieted.....temporarily. The only thing that is truly lasting and powerful is love. 

So, here's the raw truth about hate / haters, and how to deal with it. A haters negativity often stems from their own insecurities and issues. The best way to deal with them is to not let their words effect you, ignore them, focus on your own goals, and rise above them not allowing them to bring you down. Here are some key points and characteristics to watch out for : 1. Their issues and insecurities are their own 2. They are masters at projecting their insecurities and failures onto others 3. They will criticize your success 4. They thrive on attention 5. Engaging with them feeds their desire and need for attention and will only escalate the situation. Be cautious but don't live in paranoia or fear. For those that like to try and believe the best of everyone and live in this harmonious state, that's good, but you have to remember reality and not everyone is kind, loving, or trustworthy!! Be aware and don't be blind! How do I deal with these types of people? Hopefully this advice will help from my own experiences and research I've done to help myself. 1. Ignore them and don't give them the satisfaction of a reaction 2. Don't take it personally and remember that their words and actions are about them, not you 3. Use constructive criticism and if someone offers genuine feedback, consider it thoughtfully but disregard personal attacks. 4. Be confident in yourself and don't let negativity effect your self-esteem. 5. Focus on positive relationships and weed out the bad ones. Yes we should try to love everyone even the difficult people, but remember that you are just going to have to love them from a distance. 6. I've found that there truly is good in everyone, you just have to put in the effort to see it and learn to see the forest through the trees. 7. If you are with someone with whom you always have to read between the lines, RUN!!!! 

If you choose to respond to a hater, let these two things be your motive: 1. To educate them and 2. To stand up for others. In educating them let it be for the purpose of calmly correcting misinformation, but avoid getting into arguments. If it's to stand up for others, speak out against them in a positive way without involving yourself in an argument with them. Most people who are haters are narcissists and carry with them very similar if not the same traits / characteristics. 

It can take a lifetime to learn that just because people criticize you doesn't mean they care about you. Not everyone is going to care about you the way you care about them and treat them with love and respect. If you think they are, you're setting yourself up for hurt. It's easier said than done because validation is such a huge need as is being heard and understood. 

I was afraid to start blogging because of what I shared in a previous blog......feelings of inadequacy, fear of what others would think, etc etc etc!! But I finally decided that I didn't care and how silly would it be to let someone or a group of people stop me from helping other people?!! It sounds absolutely ridiculous! I refuse to let anyone hold me back and have just accepted the fact that not everyone is going to like or approve of what I do or say and I'm okay with that. I'd rather be criticized than to box in the greatness inside of me and the capabilities I have to help others grow and win in life!! 

Protect yourself, know that love really does conquer all, and in loving people sometimes the best way to love them truly is from afar and not feed their sick destructive habits. No one is you or has the gifts you do to help make a difference in this world. So choose.......